How to ‘network’ without chipping away at your soul

Mark Carrigan

‘Networking’ is a horrible term.  I’m sure I’m not the only person who hates it. It  nonetheless refers to something important, albeit perhaps pervasively misunderstood. The usual connotations of the term ‘networking’ are insincerity, instrumentalism and general creepiness. There have been a few occasions when I’ve been conscious of being ‘networked’ by someone else in a way that made me deeply uncomfortable. It’s worse when someone is really good at it, projecting enthusiasm for their encounter with you while nonetheless failing to engage with anything you’re actually saying: smiling plausibly while looking over your shoulder to check if anyone more useful has entered the vicinity.

In fact I think ‘useful’ is the key term to understanding the problem here. If you see ‘networking’ in terms of people being ‘useful’ to you then it will be a soul-destroying activity. You’ll either succeed in building a collection of ‘useful’ people around you (and destroy your soul in the process) or your confidence will be crushed by the feeling you’ve pervasively failed to do things properly (though your soul may very well be intact).

Rather than ‘useful’, we should think in terms of ‘interesting’: arousing curiosity or interest. Who do you find interesting? What do you share with them? What differences and commonalities are there in how you approach a shared interest? Setting out to build a network of people you hope might one day be useful to you is creepy and disturbing. Approaching academic life with the intention of having as many friendly conversations as you can with people who share your interests is incredibly rewarding. Plus social media takes so much of the awkwardness out of it. But that’s an entirely different post.

Photo by Alina Grubnyak on Unsplash

1 comment

  1. Being in the computer business I find “Networking” an okay term. Meeting people does’t come naturally to many of us in hard end of science, so some explicit training, and events, help. We do that routinely as an icebreaker with students, where we get them to form small groups and introduce, or interview each other. It also happens at entrepreneurial events at start-up centers, such as the Canberra Innovation Network (CBRIN), where we are told to meet someone new, between pitches. Clearly we are all there for a common purpose: to find others to help our business. But this is done in a social context, in a friendly relaxed, but fast, way.


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